'You are single, you only have to pay your own bills; meanwhile I have to pay for school fees': Single 20-something woman gets pressured to foot the bill for her 30+ sisters 4 kids:

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    AITA for telling my siblings I don't want to split the bill equally since they have kids and I don't?
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    I have two older sisters (both over 30 years old), while I'm still in my 20s. The thing is, they suggested to invite my mom to lunch for Mother's Day and they were talking about splitting the expenses in 3 parts. Both of them have 2 kids each while I don't. Given past (bad) experiences where the kids were not contemplated in the bill but still would eat I told them I did not like the idea of splitting in 3 since
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    their kids should be taken into account, mind you, the kids are not babies, one of them will soon turn 18. At the mention of that they did not like it and called me confrontational and my mom even found out and took their side, as per usual.
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    To give you some more context as to why it bothers me: A similar experience happened before during a trip where I had to pay a third out of all the expenses, my mom another and my sister another (husband and kids included). She thought my mom and I were oblivious about the whole thing but my mom begged me to not say anything to not start a fight but now I think I've held my silence for long.
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    So, the question is, AITA for wanting the bill to be split differently considering I don't have kids and I'm only paying for my share and my mom's?
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    EmceeSuzy 19 hr. ago You are NTA but you need to stop dining and traveling with them. Take your mother to a special brunch or painting class or some other nice treat for mother's day. If she will not agree to go with you for a solo outing, that is her choice. It does not obligate you to join a group outing that doesn't work for you.
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    mortgage_gurl · 19 hr. ago Or each pay for self and split mom's portion
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    SpecificWorldliness . 18 hr. ago That's exactly what OP was asking for, the other siblings are the ones demanding it be even thirds all around.
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    EntrepreneurAmazing3. Yep. Gee, I wonder why? Freeloaders... /sigh
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    LettheWorldBurn1776. 17 hr. ago And odds are if OP has children, and the nibs are grown and gone as it were that that OP's sibs suddenly think it's unfair that they should be expected to pay for OP's children......
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    One-Employee9235. 17 hr. ago Unless they're holding OP up for the money, OP is the one deciding how much to pay. I'm practical and petty, so I would take cash with me and pay only what I ordered plus a third of the mother's meal. Then a kiss for mom and leave. Others have suggested taking mom out alone. That solves the immediate problem but not the larger one - why the entire family, including mom, keeps taking advantage of OP.
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    No-Macaron-7732. 15 hr. ago , I'd even totally cover mom's meal! Still cheaper than paying 1/3 of everything and then the sisters can't complain that it wasn't "fair"
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    One-Employee9235. 14 hr. ago When It's always the same child who is being asked to be the "bigger person," it's favoritism. There's also this tidbit, that hasn't been cited enough. Mom is making a habit of slighting OP: ...they did not like it and called me confrontational and my mom even found out and took their side, as per usual.
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    MehX73 17 hr. ago Who even splits things that way though. If you want to even split a bill when you go out to eat with 10 people, you split it 10 ways. If you're a family of 4, that means you pay for 4/10th. A single person pays 1/10th. Now you want to pay for moms, then maybe that portion alone can be split in 3rds for each of her biological children. So moms
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    food was $30, the 3 children each throw in $10 each more. Or just freaking ask for separate checks if you can't be an adult about it and split it fairly.
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    Remote-Passenger 7880 · 19 hr. ago My friend went thru this same thing years back. She started asking for a separate check with just her meal and the celebratory person's meal and the tip. If someone tried to complain that she wasn't paying for their kids, she would say something like "is it your birthday? Im already covering for mom, im not covering for you too." A few years after
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    she started doing this, her mom started whining about how her other kids never got her anything. They tried to say the dinner was their gift but she would remind them that they didn't pay for her dinner.
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    Demand a compromise. Yall can split the bill by the number of attendees or yall can do seperate checks because you're not supplementing them anymore. You're not their backup ATM. If they can't afford to eat out, then they can choose to not eat out. Next time mom begs you to keep the peace, remind her that you're not the one disrupting it. NTA
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    MerelyWhelmed1 - 19 hr. ago You are NTA. I get so tired of these posts wherein the single or childless person is expected to foot the bill for someone else's kids.
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    taenuts OP 16 hr. ago "You are single you only have to pay your own bills! meanwhile I have to pay for school fees" that's their argument actually
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    2birds Baby 16 hr. ago My petty would have said back, "I didn't realize your decision to have my nieces and nephews was such a burden on you that you need my help in order to pay for them." I don't take kindly to other people thinking they have any right to spend my money, family or not.

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